Tuesday, 18 November 2014

Friendship Bracelets History

Friendship Bracelets are colorful small signs of friendship which is made by one friend for some of the special friend. In some countries people call them "Friendship Bands". These are the Expressions of love, care and affection. Their specialty is that they are hand made. These friendship bracelets are made up of colorful thread and embroidery floss. Such bracelets are made up of knots which expresses the "Strength of Friendship". It expresses that "Our Friendship is not weak, it is knotted tightly, and it can't be broken easily".

Since their origin, these bracelets are very popular among girls. These are a kind of jewelry. They have a universal popularity. The traditional patterns of hand weaving and knot craft originated from Native American Handicrafts. Based on these traditions, there are many thoughts and ideas behind these friendship bracelets. The main idea is that one friend will express her love or care for other friend and the other friend will admire her work. The two common most ideas are discussed below:

Wish Come True 
This concept or idea is based on traditional thought of the wish and how wish can come true with the help of friendship bracelet. In order to clearly elaborate this idea, let's take an example. Suppose there are two girls, studying in the same school and same class. They consider each other best friend. They both really care for each other. One day, one of them made a bracelet with colorful threads. The next day, she presents that bracelet to her friend by knotting it on her wrist. The girl who is now wearing that bracelet wishes something at that time with the belief that when the bracelet will drop naturally, her wish will come true.

Friendship gone bitter 
The other concept or idea revolves around bitterness of the friendship. This idea reveals that how sweet friendship like sugar can be transformed into a bitter kiwi. From above example, one friend present bracelet to the other friend with the intentions of knotting that bracelet on her wrists forever for expressing their everlasting friendship. Till they are good friends, the other has to wear that bracelet. But when that bracelet is wear out by other friend without falling off naturally, then their friendship will turn bitter.

Sunday, 20 July 2014

Bollywood Queen Aishwarya Rai

Bollywood's paragon of age-old, dutiful Indian femininity

That's what Indian press has to say about her. No wonder because her Hindi looks and deep-set eyes tells that she is a goddess incarnated into a beautiful woman. She took Hollywood by storm when she appeared in her latest offering The Last Legion as Mira, the female warrior.

Aishu had a little experience in acting but that doesn't hinder her to wow movie critics in her launching movie Iruvar (The Duo) in 1997. Her third movie Jeans, where she played a dual role garnered her Filmfare Best Actress Award South. As of this date, this emerald-eye beauty created almost 40 films including movie in production. Her performances in the movie Devdas earned her international fame as this movie is chosen to receive a special screening at Cannes Film Festival. Since then she became a regular in Cannes and eventually a member of the Jury in 2003. In October she released her first English film Bride and Prejudice, a musical taken from Jane Austen's famous novel along with her wax figure at Madame Tussaud's wax Museum.

As of this date, she will appear in movies such as Jodhaa Akbar and Sarkar for 2007, Raj Singularity and Bhopal Movie set in 2008 and Steve Martin's Pink Panther 2 where she replaced Beyonce as the female lead. She is also set to appear in US' hit sci-fi series Heroes where she has 8 episodes lined-up for her.

Aishu remained private in her personal life but her love life set her too many controversies. Her romance with Salman Khan ruled tabloids since she is a Hindu and Salman's a Muslim, they can't be together because it is not permitted in their culture. She also dated Vivek Oberoi and Abhishek Bachachan. Abhishek and Aishu got married last April 27, 2007

Saturday, 19 July 2014

Online Dating

In today's world, there is a high value placed on dating and relationships. For some people, however, it is just not easy to find the right person. It feels awkward to spend time among a group of friends who all have significant others but sometimes finding a date is harder than many imagine it to be. That is why many individuals are making use of free dating websites and other dating services that provide singles with compatible matches.

Dating services can be found to fill almost every niche that exists. If you are an Indian man, there are dozens of websites available to help you find an attractive, single Indian girl just as an Asian woman is able to use a dating service to find a single Asian man. The Indian dating scene and the Asian dating scene are just like any other - individuals who seek to find the love of their lives sometimes need a little bit of help and that is where a dating service may come into play. In the United States, American singles are able to find companionable matches with people in their country just as a Pakistani single might find a good match with someone with an ethnic background similar to his own.

Services offered by dating websites need not be based on ethnicity. Many countries have begun to utilize services that offer matches based on common religious beliefs to ensure a harmonious pairing. Through these services single Muslims can find matches with individuals who have similar beliefs and lifestyles, factors which make them immediately more compatible than couples who have a lesser foundation.

Thanks to the many free dating services that are available on the internet, singles no longer have to despair over the difficulty of finding a partner. When relationships are formed on the firm foundation of similar ethnic backgrounds or religious beliefs the hard work of making an initial connection with someone becomes easy. Once you find a person with whom you are well-matched, if you do whatever you can to build the relationship and make it last you will find that you have become another happy client of the dating service industry.

Saturday, 12 July 2014

North East Girls Are Very Beautiful

What is so special of the North East girls? We need to find out the motives of the Delhi people or other Indian's mindset that leads to frequent eve-teasing, molestation and rape of our girls?

"North East girls are very beautiful", said one of the Editors of a premier fashion and modeling magazine based in National Capital Region (NCR). "Their skins are flawless...they are little angels, we need new faces from these regions." I got this remark while working for a Fashion magazine as Executive Editor. Today, I am quoting his words in the backdrop of the recent molestation and harassment of North East girls by their landlord.

The tragic incident in the early hours of December 13, 2008 where the landlord knocked at the door of a rented room at Sikandrapur, DLF Phase-I in Gurgaon is another crime meted out to our girls in Delhi and its adjoining areas. The two girls had come to Gurgaon on December 11 in search of a suitable job. In the very week of the International Human Rights Day, our girls are humiliated and discriminated. And the law of the country is protecting the culprits, as usual.

According to a reliable source from the New Delhi-based North East Support Centre and Helpline (NESCH), the two girls were sleeping when at around 2.30 a.m. on December 13, their landlord knocked the door. The girls had suspected his attention and refused to open their door. The consequences was not good, he repeatedly barged the door, abusing them for the delay in letting him in. Frightened and hapless, the girls had pleaded for mercy. They even requested to meet them in the morning. The landlord was adamant to sneak into their room. The girls tried to call SOS of Police, which did not work out. Later they raised an alarm for a Manipuri friend, who also stays in the same locality. When they came to rescue the girls, the landlord and his gangs had beaten them and chased away. Thereafter, the two girls were tortured, abused, and molested. They were confined to secluded room and even threatened to rape them. All their belongings were looted- money, cloths and camera.

The event should not be taken lightly. We should pledge this one to be the last incidence of crime against our girls. We need to unite and come together to protect ourselves. Integrity and unity is the answer now. The north east states of India are divided into different communities and sub-castes, may be 500 groups (both officially and non officials). These fragmentation and division make us weak and powerless in any issues. Our road to solidarity is often a failure. We are unable to punish culprits in the earlier molestations or rape cases. This encourages the offenders to continue their exploitations and tortures our girls from time to time. They have taken undue advantages of the internal differences and clashes among us. Collectively, we should have a powerful voice soon!

North East girls are the most beautiful female in India. Their looks are so innocent, pure and symbol of truth and sincerity. They always respect the elders, addressing - bhaiya, uncleji, auntyji etc. This makes them extraordinary from other girls. However, they have been harassed, abused and discriminated every day. They are the cynosure of soring eyes. No one spares them - shopkeepers, auto rickshaw drivers and bus conductors. The people from mainland forget to realize these girls have travelled 4000 kilometers from their home to study and work.

There are also girls from other states of India. And not a single report of rape, molestation or eve-teasing against the girls from Madhya Pradesh, Kerala, Tamil Nadu or Bihar. However, we heard of raping and molesting foreign tourists from countries like Germany, France, Japan, China and other South Asian countries in Rajasthan, Goa or Delhi. Can we compare our girls with these foreigners? Is this the reason for sexually abusing NE girls? Are we alien here in India or some refugees from foreign countries? If they regard us as foreigner, then our struggle for a separate country is legitimate and politically acceptable? If it is a fact, then the Central government should proclaimed to the world that North Eastern states were never a part of India. Otherwise, they should protect and take necessary actions to save our integrity and community from further exploitations in Delhi or other Indian cities.

What are those physical structures in our girls that are a subject of sexual abuses and crimes? Do they have more curves than those North Indian girls, fetish or more hot (often a term used by North Indian man to describe a woman). Are our girls used to reveal their assets or body more than Bipasha, Mallika Sherawat or Rakhi Sawant? Does our girls dressed tight tops, jeans, and deep cut blouses? No one would ever find any of our girls in such wardrobe mismanagement. The people of Manipur have already designed 32 different kinds of dresses during 12th century A.D. At that time, Indians were still uncertain of what to wear and how to dress sensibly. Then it is injustice on the part of Delhi authorities to impose a dress code for the NE girls only. Instead they should dictate strict rules on Delhi's landlord, Paying Guest owners and police personals to protect and care our girls. The mainstream media should stop representing stereotype image of our girls as easily available for party, enjoyment and sex.

We also need to know why the Biharis (people from Bihar) owners and managers of small private company always search for NE girls as their Personal Secretaries or Receptionists or sales girls in shopping malls. Why the fashion photographers wants models or new face from our region for bold, inner wears or compromising photo shoots? Why so many beauty parlors recruit our innocent girls? Why we have started a so called live-in culture in rented rooms, misguiding to our landlords as brother-sister relationship. Why so many MMS scandals are uploaded online which depicts immoral acts of our own girls and boys? And why our parents and guardians do not think twice to question what type of jobs their daughters are doing - part time, freelance or full time? We need to critically analyze these unsolved myths, if we want to protect further crimes on our community.

Most of our girls are staying in posh colonies of New Friends Colony (near Jamia Milia Islamia), South Extension Part I and II, Vasant Kunj, Greater Kailash I and II, Munirka, Lajpat Nagar and Kotla in South Delhi. Every weekend, these girls will end up in some bars around Defence Colony, M- Block market of Greater Kailash or Vasant Kunj. They are also seen in McDonalds, Pizza Hut and Multiplexes like the PVR, 3C's or the WAVES. Often they have a fluent accent in US or UK English, lavish lifestyles and extravagance in Shopping Malls. No one could say they are our girls. It seems they felt inferior to converse in our own regional dialects. We could see our girls in public places like Ansal Plaza or Lodhi Gardens cajoling, hugging and kissing their so called lovers (mostly outsiders - people not from our region). When they saw us among the crowd, they used to ignore our presence. Such behaviors, if properly noticed by the outsiders would surely think the girls have no one to protect their chastity or morality. And the horrifying tales of exploitations, molestations and rapes continues like the Dhaula Kuan car rape case, Munirka business woman case and the North Campus cyber café case.

The role of state government is to deploy one of the state battalion in Delhi with a sole purpose of protecting our own sisters from the gangs of Northern India. We may approach the state government of 8 states to send security forces. It may be the Manipur Rifles, the Sikkim Police, Assam police or Nagaland police. There are battalions of Tamil Nadu police in Delhi. Such presence of our police force will discourage the people from eve teasing or harassments to our girls. Our girls may also feel safe and secure then.

The MPs from our region should collectively work, forgetting about their political affiliations and voiced for a North East Women Commission, in line with National Commission for Women (NCW). If there can be DONER to look after the development of our region, why can't we have separate women commission to protect our girls at National level. They should pressurize the centre to pass a Bill for the protection and preservation of our identity, culture and unity.

It is a good sign that many student organizations based in Delhi are expressing their support for the cause of NE states. Organizations like the Manipur Student Association of Delhi (MSAD) and Assam Student Association of Delhi (ASAD) are spearheading recent issue of molestations on our girls. We need more voluntary participations from Nagaland, Mizoram, Meghalaya, Tripura, Sikkim and Arunachal Pradesh to have more impact on our cause for unity and integrity. We also need International organizations like Friends of Assam and Seven Sisters (FASS) to support our mission of uniting the region. Most importantly, we should respect our traditions and cultures. We cannot duplicate other's lifestyle which have no place in our society!

Friday, 4 July 2014

How I Met the Indian Girl of My Dreams

It was Saturday night and a few of my friends from college were going out to the movies, but I had decided to stay home. I told everyone I had a term paper to finish but the real truth was that I didn't want to go out at all. Everyone in the group had a date and I wasn't with anyone at that time. I had recently had a few bad experiences with my last 3 relationships and it seemed harder and harder to find someone who was compatible with me. Although I was born and raised in the U.S., I had a strong Indian heritage. My parents had migrated from India almost 26 years ago looking for a better life for all of us. Since there weren't too many Indian girls at my college, it wasn't easy for me to find exactly what I was looking for. I wanted a long term serious relationship, someone to get married to and hopefully have children with one day. But as each day passed by I began to think that wasn't going to happen anytime soon. I decided to go home on Sunday since there was going to be a family get-together at the house. I was looking forward to one of my mother's home cooked meals.

Once I got there I was surprised to see how many people were visiting. I walked around and shook hands with all those I knew and then headed to the kitchen. My mother quickly smiled when she saw me and said, "Ashok, so glad you're here, I made your favorite; chicken curry with vegetable rice for you" as she pointed to the stove. While my mother was talking, I was looking at this gorgeous girl talking to my sisters. She had long black hair and her skin was honey colored brown. Her eyes were dark brown with a touch of green. My mother noticed I was staring, so she turned to grab the girl and said, "Anushka, I want you to meet my oldest son Ashok" and she led her towards me. I extended my hand and before I could think of anything to say, my mother interrupted, "Anushka is Derek's wife; your brother's friend. Isn't she beautiful Ashok?" I said the only thing I could say which was "yes" and I blushed a bit. Then my mother added, "When are you and your brother Niraj going to settle down and marry a nice Indian girl like Anushka, tell me?" I gently hugged my mom and said, "One of these days mom, who knows" as I walked towards the yard to search for my brother. I grabbed a beer from the fridge and walked to where my brother Niraj was standing. "Hey bro" I said as I gave him a five. Niraj looked at me and leaned forward as he whispered, "Did you see my friend Derek's wife?" as he glanced with his eyes towards the kitchen. I quickly responded, "I just met her. Mom introduced us" Niraj then told me, "You will never believe how they met bro" as he took a sip of his beer.

I responded, "Let me guess, he went to India, right?" Niraj laughed and said, "No Ash, he met her on some online dating site for indian dating something like that. Can you believe that?"

The truth was, I could not. I caught up with Derek and asked him for more info about the website.  I searched for "dating Indian women." Within minutes, I knew how I'd be able to meet the kind of women I was looking for. I used the methods described to meet beautiful, young, professional and intelligent Indian women who were members of Shaddi.com. These women were just like me in wanting to find that special someone. The most surprising thing was that some of them even lived near me. To tell you the truth it's hard to believe that all this happened to me only three years ago. Today, as I sit here at one of the family gatherings I am once again amazed at the beautiful woman across the room talking to my sisters. Her name is Sheila and she is my wife. I wonder what my life would be like if I had never visited that site? Where would I be? More than likely I would still be alone, looking and wondering where the woman of my dreams was. I met Nina a few months after following my friends advice and a several months later we became serious. A year ago I asked her to marry me and here we are today. We have now been married for 7 months and I could not be happier.

Saturday, 25 January 2014

A First Experience of Professional Life of Young Indians models

The BPO industry, of which call centers are the major part, has flourished in India as more and more foreign companies are using the services of Indian companies for emergency response, client queries, lead generation, marketing and sales, and customer acquisition.

As the winds of western trends blow in India, youngsters in big cities with education in English medium schools find work in BPO firms during their college days, or right after completing school. They work night shifts and study during the day, and sometime bunk the classes. Getting such jobs depends on their ability to speak good English and ability in persuading people. Such BPO jobs are usually the first jobs for the youngsters, some of whom are straight out of school.

When they get the job there is a thrill of passing the interview and getting selected for a job that pays decently. There is also the excitement of learning a new accent: the BPO companies teach their employees to speak in American or British accent to make them more acceptable to the U.S. or British clients. There is the enthusiasm of an initial stage and the sleepiness for the first few nights in case they are working in a night shift. They learn the lessons of efficiency and call each other by their adopted 'American' names.

The BPO industry has seen many ups and downs over the years along with the IT industry, but on the whole the story has been of success. BPO jobs by Indian companies too have flooded the market in recent times and young people from cities do not find it too difficult to find jobs in BPO sector. But most of them leave the jobs in less than a year as the growing demand of studies, other goals, and boredom with the same dreary routine enter their life. The premier BPO service offering companies have changed their model and tried to integrate the BPO employees in other high-end services that provide a greater scope for development in order to control the high rate of attrition.

Some of the people who join a BPO firm at a young age stick to their jobs and become more efficient at handling the clients and become real assets to the companies. BPO companies reward good performers and so people with good communication skills and sales ability can earn a lot more in a short duration. Promotion also comes quick for the talented and with the growth of the BPO industries; better BPO jobs are becoming available; persuading many to make a career in the industry.

Time will tell how what direction the BPO services sector will take in future, but for now it is providing many youngsters a platform where they can stand on their own feet and make their mark in a professional outfit.

Friday, 13 December 2013

Lifestyle of Indian Girls Aspiring to Marry Abroad

The sun over the west shines just the same
The moon and the stars too
But something about the west
Beckons quite a few...

"Our decision is final", said Colonel Kapoor firmly, "if you wish to do a PhD in the US, we will find a suitable boy living there. Get married and the you can go." Shruti, their elder daughter was aghast. She could not believe that in this day and age, her parents, whom she had always considered liberal, would turn out to be so conservative. It was her dream to enroll for a doctorate degree in one of the top American universities. Besides, her excellent M.Sc results ensured that she stood a good chance of getting a scholarship. Surprisingly, her parents, who had always been so supportive of her ambitions and aspirations, now seemed adamant and unrelenting. She was perhaps too young and naïve to understand the fears they had about sending their beloved child all alone to a strange, advanced and unknown land, where she would have no one to call her own.

"My dream", sighed Radha, "is to marry an NRI (non resident Indian). Radha, a 24-year old chartered accountant, had always been in awe of the west. Europe and the US were her ultimate destinations, not just to visit as a tourist, but to live and feel that she belonged to those nations more than her own country.

Neha Aggarwal, a college graduate pursuing a secretarial course, stood on the threshold of marriage. In her family, an NRI was the ultimate catch, and he stood head and shoulders above any bachelor working in India.

These three young ladies, smart, accomplished and intelligent, had one more thing in common. Marrying an NRI seemed inevitably the only route towards the fulfillment of their dreams. The Indian mindset is such that people are convinced that the brightest and the smartest men always head towards western countries, where their intellect is appreciated and rewarded. Material comfort, economic security when added to the brand value linked to living overseas, becomes the dream of every parent for his daughter.

But is it as simple as marrying in India, and life abroad a cakewalk? Not really, as the contrast between lifestyles in India and other countries is too much to be taken lightly. Girls aspiring to marry abroad need to make a conscious effort and change their present lifestyle according to the requirements of the future.

NRIs or Non Resident Indians are those fellow countrymen who have stepped beyond Indian soil in pursuit of a job, build a career, or start a business. Whatever the assignment, working abroad certainly means more money, greater recognition of talent and dignity of labor, an excellent work environment along with immense job satisfaction, success coming much quicker than it would anywhere in India. That a dollar or euro salary helps afford good lifestyles, is also a consideration. Large villas, plush apartments, latest cars, seaside holidays, all come within a short period of time. It is the best option for a generation that likes to work hard and play hard. Back in India, they command a new kind of respect, doors open for them, and heads turn with a look of awe and admiration from all around.

This may seem like a bed of roses, but it comes with its fair share of thorns. The flip side to marrying abroad, can turn out to be a traumatic experience for young ladies oblivious to the harsh realities that stare at them once they leave India.

The first step is to meet an eligible bachelor working abroad, and liking him enough to say yes to the long-term commitment called marriage. Men living overseas have spent many years alone, establishing careers without any family support or comfort. They succumb to familial pressures for matrimony, but have definite ideas about what they would like in a life partner.

The Indian system of marriage is quite different from the west. While love marriages frequently take place, arranged marriages are more commonplace. An arranged marriage means that parents try to find suitable companions for their children on the basis of family, position and education. It is an age-old belief that children from similar family backgrounds and comparable economic positions are likely to have a more successful married relationship. Moreover, Indian society being conservative, till very recently, it did not give boys and girls the liberty to move about socially where they could get an opportunity to meet suitable partners. Parents are particularly strict with daughters, seldom permitting them to socialize unescorted. This naturally meant that the probability of young people meeting prospective life partners was very low. The task of finding a life partner has been the prerogative of the parents and relatives, and matchmaking quite an interesting assignment. This generations-old tradition has also been based upon common belief that children are too naïve and immature to decide who would make a good life partner for them, and therefore, the task should be handled by mature elders. Initially, the boy and girl in question were not even asked whether or not they liked the person chosen for them. Over the years this has changed, and the boy and girl meet and even go out together, quite like the west. As a friend puts it," people all over the world, meet, fall in love and decide to marry; in India, the boy and girl meet, marry and then fall in love!" Marriage is serious business in India, and considered to be a lifelong commitment. Divorce and separation are frowned upon, and even the courts of law try to resolve issues of marital discord to preserve the relationship and restore normalcy in the family. This is the rationale behind parents choosing prospective marriage partners for their children.

The fate of an NRI is quite the same. Once he succumbs to pressure from parents and agrees to meet prospective brides, the boy's parents shortlist a few girls whose family backgrounds have been checked and the girls' qualities, personality and habits gauged through common friends or acquaintances. They seem to have fixed notions about an ideal daughter-in-law, and fervently hope that their son would choose one of the girls they have liked. The son, in turn, has an image of a partner who has a bit of the smartness of a Susan or Jane at his workplace, but also has a strong set of Indian values, who can run a warm Indian home for him, cook exotic meals both Indian and western or oriental, pamper him so that he just has his work to think of, and does not have a thing to do once he comes home. She must also be well educated to blend into his social circle and not be a misfit. She must be able to fend for herself rather than depend on him for everything. Men in India, often feel that everything they say or do, must be accepted and even appreciated, but never questioned. While non-resident Indian men have learnt to do household tasks, but once married, they wish to wriggle out of such mundane though essential chores.

Choosing a life partner is difficult especially because nowadays, it is not enough that the girl is "presentable". To be able to gauge her attitudes and outlook, and to see whether they may prove to be compatible, the Indian abroad wishes to meet the girl time and again. Her behavior and demeanor will help him decide whether or not she will fit into his life overseas. The girl on her part, takes her time to see whether the man is thoughtful, warm and caring or is he a male chauvinist, arrogant about his success, and singularly lacking in the ability to give respect to others, especially women. Many Indian young men remain tied to their mother's apron strings for their whole lives, and hence are never able to see the talent and qualities in other women. These attitudes sometimes change when they live abroad where the society offers a lot more respect to women. Marriage for Indian men too is a deep commitment; therefore, the NRI takes pains to acquaint the prospective bride with the tough lives and tasks ahead, which in India, they may never have faced. Living in India under parents' protection is an entirely different experience. India is home, their comfort zone, familiar and friendly, and seemingly safe. Parents indulge and pamper, assist and advise in everything, always shielding their children from difficulties and tensions.

Thus, when the goal is to marry someone settled abroad, it is better to prepare in advance, get acquainted in western ways, and hence be equipped to handle a different life in an unknown place. The bottom line is that life abroad is tough, entailing a lot more hard work. One would need to be efficient in household chores since domestic help is a rarity, restricted to only an elite class of people. India is one of the few countries where domestic help is a given. Time management skills are an asset and efficient handling of every chore becomes essential since there is so much to do. From shopping, cooking and cleaning to clearing snow from the driveway, mowing the lawn, the list goes on... Added to this is the fact that the migrant feels lost and lonely in an environment that does not exude warmth, and cities seem almost deserted, as populations are not at Indian levels. Above all, the young ladies in question are in a new relationship, still getting to know their husbands.

It would be beneficial for each of these girls to acquire skills such as driving so that they can be independent. In the Indian system few can afford a car per member of the family, employing chauffeurs is a prerogative of the elite and the middle class are a single-car family with men most of the time. The young ladies on the threshold of marriage must also read and gather information about the social norms of different countries, be well informed about western society, and even acquire some language skills, for, who knows when the knowledge of another language may come in handy. The Internet puts a world of information at one's fingertips, and one has to browse around to become well informed. Knowledge is the key to greater confidence makes you more self assured and dignified in demeanor, and society is more receptive and warm to such individuals.

In terms of appearance, it is important to merge with the crowd, rather than stand out as a foreigner. The young ladies can also try out different types of cuisines and develop a taste for non-Indian food. Most Indians find continental food unpalatable, and vegetarian options are not their kind either. One would have to develop a taste for different foods so as to not face an embarrassing situation in a social gathering being unable to eat anything. Young ladies are not in the habit of taking on complete cooking responsibilities, restricting their culinary experiments to a single exotic preparation. Most mothers are in charge of the daily staple food in Indian homes that include multiple preparations. Under their watchful eyes, the girls can gather a number of helpful tips that make every meal delicious.

In Shruti's case, she has to grow out of the student mould focusing only on studying. She has to get used to the idea of getting married, sharing her life, shouldering the responsibility of a home, being a wife and student at the same time, and above all, learn enough about the U.S. Western influences have crept into Indian society, but many unknown facts are unraveled when one delves deeper. Her homework on universities, admissions and scholarships will have to be centered around the place where her prospective husband is based. She has to work herself out of the emotional attachment to her family, to be able to leave them and go. A part of her daily schedule set during discussions with her parents, is to plan one meal everyday and set it in front of her family. Her father has decided to give her driving lessons himself and useful tips on money management.

Radha and Neha need to do the same. Both belong to smaller cities and are less exposed to Western influences. Simple living and their laid-back attitude would have to be changed if they are aspiring to marry abroad. Exposure to non-Indian food and dress, etiquette and table manners, good command over English, the art of polite conversation even in a crowd of unknown people instead of sitting quietly in a corner, appropriate behavior in public places, are some of the things they need to learn. Being able to walk smartly with an air of confidence will take time and practice. This will please their partners and life beyond the home would become a lot more fun, than facing the prospect of reprimand each time they are out and not doing things right. Neha realizes that she needs to take aerobic lessons to lose weight and tone up her body. Radha feels the need to learn western dance so that she can join the crowd wherever there is music and dancing.

Marrying abroad has been a happy experience for thousands and a nightmare for just as many. Girls must learn to handle difficult situations. Beyond India, each young man is an anonymous entity, very few know where he goes and what he does, certainly not his family in India. If the girl's family does not make sufficient enquiries, the girl's life faces the risk of being ruined. Some young Indian men have already married foreigners, but keep their families back home in the dark. They lack the guts to tell their parents the truth and lead them on, never realizing that they would be ruining an innocent girl's life. They feel they could go on with this dual charade forever, but the truth inevitably stumbles out. The worst sufferer is the girl in question.

Many a time men profess to own businesses while they are actually employed for menial jobs. Thus a waiter claims to be a restaurant owner, a salesman becomes the owner of a chain of stores. Torture and abuse of innocent girls are horror stories. Caution and thorough investigation becomes the key to avoid such agony. The stresses and strains of survival in Western society take their toll on men too, who, unable to vent their frustrations elsewhere, resort to abusive behavior and the young wife is at he receiving end. Crossing from one economic level to another also leads to behavioral changes in men.